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Getting Over An Affair: A Guide To Getting You Through The Pain

By DeAnn Norton

Getting over an affair is hard work no matter how you handle it. Your lover has broken your trust and shattered your relationship.

You may feel like something is wrong with you, but nothing could be further from the truth. No one deserves to be cheated on because it is the coward's way out of a relationship. How do you move on and get on with your life after an affair?

Your first big choice may well be whether you stay with your partner or not. This is a personal decision that many people have to make. Perhaps you are more comfortable staying with him or her.

There is always the chance that you can work things out and get past all of your issues as a couple. Some couples survive and thrive, falling more in love after an affair.

Second, you have to think about the causes of the cheating. Were there other issues within your relationship that were being ignored and not worked on? Not spending time together or not being intimate is often a sign that something is amiss.

Maybe the communication in your relationship had broken down. Whatever the reason, you have to make certain that your issues are resolved before getting back with your partner and making the same mistakes again.

Finally, getting over an affair takes a series of steps. You must set goals for yourself and work to achieve them. This allows you to keep from sinking into depression.

If you have decided to move on with your life and leave your cheating partner behind, then you still want to make a set of plans on where your life is heading. Create a goal list and decide what you want for your career, love life and even your health. Making new plans will help you see a bright future ahead.

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